the emotional fortitude required for a romatic relationship with a prostitute is beyond the standard issue for mere mortals. this is true for the whore as well as her lover.
any intimate relationship will, from time to time, face some kind of hardship or stress. that is a fact of life.
for some, the hardship will be due to (legit) employment or social circumstances. for others, infidelity or chemical addictions will be to blame. in the most heartbreaking situations, the illness or death of a child or parent will cause an otherwise sure-footed couple to stumble. (i’ll come back to these examples…)
anyone who enters into a relationship (knowingly) with a woman who uses her *feminine charms* to sustain her livelihood ought to have a greater advantage against fate and misfortunes than does his (or her) counterpart in a non-pro relationship.
i believe that’s true because the american dream of a house with a picket fence, 2.3 kids and a dog isn’t designed to pre-suppose any negativity or hardship in the short-run (and very little, if any, in the long-run).
short-run “challenges” that could threaten intimacy and trust are evident almost immediately when the object of (reciprical) desire is a provider. the person who chooses, for better or worse, and make a go of it is likely to have arrived at his decision only after playing out every inter-personal doomsday event he can imagine.
that gesture alone, the digging in of heels against jealousy and doubt, can be priceless… beyond priceless… i’ve considered some of the things that tricks post in their signature lines on the various escort-related message and review boards
i don’t pay her for sex; i pay her not to tell my wife.
i don’t pay her for sex; i pay her to leave
And i’ve considered what the workplace would be like for them if everyday at least one memo addressed to the entire company crossed their desks from a co-workers or supervisors they are at least friendly with and at the bottom of each and every one of those messages was the comment that he (the trick) isn’t paid to do his job, he is paid to get the hell out of the office (and everyone’s sight) at the end of the day. how lucky would he be to have someone to go home to who doesn’t just want to get a nut and pay him off and make him leave?
and what crock of sh*t that trick would have to put up with the next day when they got back to the office some nim-rod wanted a big inter-office discussion about all the reasons that he (the trick) shouldn’t have anyone special at home?!!
wtf?!
there’s one aspect of how couples deal with hardship that seems to have the same effect on traditional relationships that it has on providers’ relationships. even though any of the individual situations i have already listed (employment/society, infidelity/addiction, illness/death and companionship for hire) could destroy any relationship, i believe that many relationships could (and can) grow past any of these obstacles in time and ultimately survive. i’ve never seen (doesn’t mean that it doesn’t happen) any one of these things end a once-happy union, but i have seen once-happy marriages end bitterly every time outside forces came to bear on already strained relationships with unsolicited advice and opinions.
does anyone know why the hell so many tricks (the great majority of whom are cheating on their wives with prostitutes) make such a big freakin’ deal out of the fact that prostitutes do have boyfriends, girlfriends, husbands and lovers? i would love to know.
Doug Said:
on January 3, 2007 at 5:12 am
Superb post! Thank you for writing it. I hope you don’t mind if I take some of your words over to NJAJ and play around with your ideas a bit.
LA player Said:
on January 3, 2007 at 6:10 am
I can think of a few. Fantasy: GFE is about playing the role of girl friends and boy friends, if only for a short time. Anything that is an obstacle to imagination should be avoided. Why tell your trick that you have a boy friend? Your trick is paying good money while your boy friend is not. That may cause immediate jealousy. Why tell him that?
Often it’s the girl’s own making. “I have a boyfriend, I save kisses for him”. Or they simply tell you that so you won’t get the wrong idea. Is it necessary? When they tell you that they have a boy friend, usually they are not as good in the atmosphere department, less responsive, emotionally or physically.
Personally I have no problem with that. After some time they might break the no kissing rule. Also, I would imagine how jealous their boy friend would be if they know their girlfriend kiss and pant like that. Sometimes when you talk to them on the phone, you know their boy friend is around. They will talk with a very business like tone, totally different when they are alone.
experiencedgirlfriend Said:
on January 3, 2007 at 3:49 pm
thanks, doug. i am happy that you got something out of the post. there is more coming soon… some of it for tg, too.
la player, welcome! thank you for comments. i certainly can’t argue with them… i am at fault for not being more clear in my post.
when i wrote the post, i was irked by a trick making all kinds of public noise about how wrong it is for a woman with a man to do this kind of work and all that he would suffer in order to prevent his woman from being a whore. he was making a general statement that, to me, sounded a lot like: guys who become involved with hookers and call-girls are morally inferior to those like himself who take the moral high-ground, which includes cheating on their wives by fucking prostitutes.
lasvegascourtesan Said:
on January 7, 2007 at 6:37 am
Personally, I think when customers have issues with the girl being in a relationship its because they want you to them selves. They dont want to believe that you are involved in anyone else.. they just want to believe that you want to be with them. They know its bullshit and will never happen but they sure as hell dream about it. Even though I am in a relationship I always say “no I’m not seeing anyone” because john’s have cringed when I have said it and then barrage me with questions on how that works… then after the questions they feel all awkward. Makes no sense.. the guy cheats on his wife/girlfriend/fiance and has a problem with *me* trying to have a relationship. Dream away guys…
Idetrorce Said:
on December 15, 2007 at 11:31 pm
very interesting, but I don’t agree with you
Idetrorce